Each title of the chapter in this book so far reminds me of the struggling time when I was a leader of brass band...
I'd like to react to both chapters.
I'm not good at a good speech as a leader, though I think I'm good at speaking.
I mean, I can make good, beautiful words, but they just don't sound true.
I can comfort a person with kind words, but I can't give a speech to encourage and empower some groups of people.
Also, I don't really look "a leader", which is also a big issue as a leader - how you look.
I didn't, maybe still don't know how I could be "visible", cuz I didn't wanna look good, looking like showing myself off, to others.
I just kept personal practice, which some of the members also did.
I'm sure that had a good effect like "he does act, not only words."
Could that be more effective? I was afraid to be boastful.
By seeing my blogs so far, you can easily guess I'm too far from "optimist", but pessimist.
But I know many stories that tell me that optimism is really important.
It often happens that nothing changes, but everything look different.
I'm sure Shackleton wouldn't have said "So now we well go home" if he wasn't optimistic and thought "it's all over!"
Right after I took over the role of leader, many members quit the brass band, which happened every year.
For most people, they had reasons that I couldn't help, like for studying or physical problems.
But I was just shocked to the reality that many people quit the brass band.
I really need to know to quit being pessimistic, this is not escaping from reality.
Rather, it is better to know the reality more accurately cuz pessimistic view often make me think even worse than the reality itself.
I must learn to be optimistic, and this is not acquiring during taking leadership, but just through daily lives.
Hi, Mao:)
ReplyDeleteYou said "I can't give a speech to encourage and empower some groups of people."
However, you make BI members happy and encourage!
At least I feel better when I talk with you because I can get along with you without constraint :)
I also tend to think negatively...orz
but I try to be optimist(`・ω・´)!
I believe you can do it!
Bye ^^
Hi Mao,
ReplyDeleteI too think you have good presence as a leader, and in group work you seem to always take a leadership role because your express yourself well.
As for optimism, keep in mind that Martin Seligman has helped pioneer the field of "learned optimism." The suggestion here is that we can become more optimistic. I have been reading Seligman and I have found much of what he says to be very useful for developing my own optimism. Consider speaking about him or his ideas for your final presentation.
Ken