Each title of the chapter in this book so far reminds me of the struggling time when I was a leader of brass band...
I'd like to react to both chapters.
I'm not good at a good speech as a leader, though I think I'm good at speaking.
I mean, I can make good, beautiful words, but they just don't sound true.
I can comfort a person with kind words, but I can't give a speech to encourage and empower some groups of people.
Also, I don't really look "a leader", which is also a big issue as a leader - how you look.
I didn't, maybe still don't know how I could be "visible", cuz I didn't wanna look good, looking like showing myself off, to others.
I just kept personal practice, which some of the members also did.
I'm sure that had a good effect like "he does act, not only words."
Could that be more effective? I was afraid to be boastful.
By seeing my blogs so far, you can easily guess I'm too far from "optimist", but pessimist.
But I know many stories that tell me that optimism is really important.
It often happens that nothing changes, but everything look different.
I'm sure Shackleton wouldn't have said "So now we well go home" if he wasn't optimistic and thought "it's all over!"
Right after I took over the role of leader, many members quit the brass band, which happened every year.
For most people, they had reasons that I couldn't help, like for studying or physical problems.
But I was just shocked to the reality that many people quit the brass band.
I really need to know to quit being pessimistic, this is not escaping from reality.
Rather, it is better to know the reality more accurately cuz pessimistic view often make me think even worse than the reality itself.
I must learn to be optimistic, and this is not acquiring during taking leadership, but just through daily lives.
Saturday, April 30, 2011
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
25 Mon.
another tricky negotiation situation...
I was exactly caught in the tricky trap, I kept the negotiation from win-win consequence by two actions.
I said "I can pay $125,000 for five, I need five, and hopefully ten."
this caused a conflict with the other buyer, who had only $100,000.
By hearing my words, the other buyer would never had thought of buying 10 together, which probably is the win-win consequence.
Another thing.
I only asked the other buyer "Do you need the whole egg? I only need the inside."
I didn't say I only need the YOLK, not explaining in detail.
So, both of us had same understanding that "we both need THE INSIDE of the eggs, so we can't avoid a conflict"
Until we noticed the (probable) win-win consequence, we kept arguing about the price to buy lol
by the way, after I knew that I had a solution to pay together, I first hid my limit price.
and confirmed "won't you really sell these eggs below $300,000?"
so that if that was possible, I didn't have to pay $200,000 because the other buyer had said they were willing to pay $100,000. I could have hid my limit price and hopefully pay less than $200,000
... is this going too far? lol
What's my sentence?
I loved Ken's idea that we record a video just like the movie on Ken's blog.
now I must think about it seriously... hmmmm
I was exactly caught in the tricky trap, I kept the negotiation from win-win consequence by two actions.
I said "I can pay $125,000 for five, I need five, and hopefully ten."
this caused a conflict with the other buyer, who had only $100,000.
By hearing my words, the other buyer would never had thought of buying 10 together, which probably is the win-win consequence.
Another thing.
I only asked the other buyer "Do you need the whole egg? I only need the inside."
I didn't say I only need the YOLK, not explaining in detail.
So, both of us had same understanding that "we both need THE INSIDE of the eggs, so we can't avoid a conflict"
Until we noticed the (probable) win-win consequence, we kept arguing about the price to buy lol
by the way, after I knew that I had a solution to pay together, I first hid my limit price.
and confirmed "won't you really sell these eggs below $300,000?"
so that if that was possible, I didn't have to pay $200,000 because the other buyer had said they were willing to pay $100,000. I could have hid my limit price and hopefully pay less than $200,000
... is this going too far? lol
What's my sentence?
I loved Ken's idea that we record a video just like the movie on Ken's blog.
now I must think about it seriously... hmmmm
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Week 2 Writing Assignment
long-term and short-term vision
another my weak point, future vision
I can't really think of my future, but I'm sort of interested in becoming a teacher, so let's say I am a teacher of mathematics and in charge of one class of a junior-high school. and I will post my ideal class here.
the long-term vision of my class is that a class with students self-motivated.
humans basically act along their interests.
and they can do well if they like it (好きこそものの上手なれ, a japanese proverb).
at the same time, I learned in educational psychology that by receiving something good for their work, their self-motivation goes down, which means the teacher can make them unmotivated to their favorites.
this is really difficult because I cannot force students to like something, but just let them do so.
there will be many small steps for this vision.
first of all I have to become a teacher. lol
I don't mean a person who has a certificate for it, but who keeps seeking what students need.
before that ....
I need to know what children at the students' age like to know.
I need to catch students' interest since there are things that they HAVE TO learn.
That's teacher's job to let those be enjoyable.
at the same time, I need to FOLLOW them in a way.
For them to be able to adapt their interest to what they learn or do, it's never enough to make curriculum only among teachers.
uummm I have this view from long ago, but I can't really think of small, concrete steps. I need to think of this more...
another my weak point, future vision
I can't really think of my future, but I'm sort of interested in becoming a teacher, so let's say I am a teacher of mathematics and in charge of one class of a junior-high school. and I will post my ideal class here.
the long-term vision of my class is that a class with students self-motivated.
humans basically act along their interests.
and they can do well if they like it (好きこそものの上手なれ, a japanese proverb).
at the same time, I learned in educational psychology that by receiving something good for their work, their self-motivation goes down, which means the teacher can make them unmotivated to their favorites.
this is really difficult because I cannot force students to like something, but just let them do so.
there will be many small steps for this vision.
first of all I have to become a teacher. lol
I don't mean a person who has a certificate for it, but who keeps seeking what students need.
before that ....
I need to know what children at the students' age like to know.
I need to catch students' interest since there are things that they HAVE TO learn.
That's teacher's job to let those be enjoyable.
at the same time, I need to FOLLOW them in a way.
For them to be able to adapt their interest to what they learn or do, it's never enough to make curriculum only among teachers.
uummm I have this view from long ago, but I can't really think of small, concrete steps. I need to think of this more...
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
What is your SENTENCE?
I loved the class for today too!
I hate negotiations :(
probably because I don't have much general knowledge and often end up compromising in anything.
but it means I have to train negiation and I did enjoy the negotiation topic for today, oranges:)
I guess the most tricky part of this setting is that we had TWO oranges.
It caused me to cling to sharing them by one.
I have to use my brain more and more...
I had such a great AHA experience from Yoshika XD
WHAT IS MY SENTENCE?
probably this.
HE GAVE UP HIMSELF FOR OTHERS.
As I've written several times, I love to do something for others.
But at the same time, I often struggle with the dillema, which is "self-satisfaction".
I'm almost always thinking about this word, self satisfaction.
but I believe this sentence means I lived with contribution for other and made them happy.
I know this is terribly vague and unclear, I will probably add some more information about my thought as I think up :)
I hate negotiations :(
probably because I don't have much general knowledge and often end up compromising in anything.
but it means I have to train negiation and I did enjoy the negotiation topic for today, oranges:)
I guess the most tricky part of this setting is that we had TWO oranges.
It caused me to cling to sharing them by one.
I have to use my brain more and more...
I had such a great AHA experience from Yoshika XD
WHAT IS MY SENTENCE?
probably this.
HE GAVE UP HIMSELF FOR OTHERS.
As I've written several times, I love to do something for others.
But at the same time, I often struggle with the dillema, which is "self-satisfaction".
I'm almost always thinking about this word, self satisfaction.
but I believe this sentence means I lived with contribution for other and made them happy.
I know this is terribly vague and unclear, I will probably add some more information about my thought as I think up :)
Applying speaking skill to mathematics class
I have mathematics class on Mon, Tue, Wed, 5,6,7 XD
How can I survive this whole term?? lol
anyways, in these classes, we are always given some mathematical problems to solve, and standing in the front of the classroom, we have to explain the solution to others.
This is a great opportunity to try my speaking skill, 3 times per week! :)
and just the other day, I found one person crossing his arms while explaining, and just by that stance, I felt much bigger pressure from him, like pushing us down.
How we speak, really, influences how people listen to us.
How can I survive this whole term?? lol
anyways, in these classes, we are always given some mathematical problems to solve, and standing in the front of the classroom, we have to explain the solution to others.
This is a great opportunity to try my speaking skill, 3 times per week! :)
and just the other day, I found one person crossing his arms while explaining, and just by that stance, I felt much bigger pressure from him, like pushing us down.
How we speak, really, influences how people listen to us.
Monday, April 18, 2011
18 Mon.
I found difficulty in speaking in front of some people, which is absolutely needed for teachers.
I think I'm not really bad at just "speaking", but when it comes to speaking with SOFTEN, it got much more difficult.
the most difficult one is eye contact.
It was a great idea to let listeners put up a piece of paper until the speaker makes sufficiently long eye contact, but without that, I really have to concentrate on looking at people, because I usually don't look at people's faces when I talk (trying to break this habit, though).
and one more, I am bad at standing still.
My feet always sort of move when I speak lol.
It's gonna take time to be able to speak with SOFTEN, but I wouldn't have even noticed unless we did such a focused class to speaking.
Thanks Ken :)
I think I'm not really bad at just "speaking", but when it comes to speaking with SOFTEN, it got much more difficult.
the most difficult one is eye contact.
It was a great idea to let listeners put up a piece of paper until the speaker makes sufficiently long eye contact, but without that, I really have to concentrate on looking at people, because I usually don't look at people's faces when I talk (trying to break this habit, though).
and one more, I am bad at standing still.
My feet always sort of move when I speak lol.
It's gonna take time to be able to speak with SOFTEN, but I wouldn't have even noticed unless we did such a focused class to speaking.
Thanks Ken :)
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Expedition Log (Preface)
I have been leaders in many situations: dormitory head in junior-high dorm, tennis club leader in junior-high and high school, brass band leader in high school, and many many others in small projects.
When I recall anything about my leadership, I think of brass band, cuz I really worked hard and spent most of my time in it when I was the leader.
But I don't think I was a good leader.
Many of my effort turned fruitless.
I didn't know what to do when many quit brass band right after I became the leader.
I hope this class helps me analyze problems of my leadership :)
-What were the qualities that enabled you to succeed or persevere?
I love to work for others, and that is THE motivation of everything.
For example, I took 教育哲学概論(Intro. to Educational Philosophy) this term and it's gonna be REALLY hard, but I won't drop it because when I become a teacher, this hard experience WILL enable me to understand the children who can't understand anything in a class. (By not the content of this class, but the fact that I experienced a class I can't really understand)
I'm sure this character of mine, loving to work for others, helped me to do any work in the brass band to the end of my role.
But this also brought a problem... which is exactly the answer of the 2nd question.
-What was the nature of the teamwork that support that you were able to inspire? How did you work with others to achieve your goal?
Of course, I had many other small leaders like leader of management instrument, music score, each instrument, etc.
But I didn't really trust them, though most of them were my close friends, because it was far faster if I just do the works, not having the process to ask a specific person to do them, and also because I didn't feel bad to do a lot of work for others.
However, I'm sure that I should have trusted other leaders much more. that was far more ideal.
my work hid the teamwork and oneness of the brass band itself.
I cannot really answer the question, but I'm sure I need the team's support when I work as a leader.
well, the team needs to be trustworthy to be assumed to be able to achieve the work. and also, the leader should not ask for a really difficult thing to accomplish, for that might cause untrustworthiness. In that case, I think it's important to work TOGETHER and be interdependent :)
When I recall anything about my leadership, I think of brass band, cuz I really worked hard and spent most of my time in it when I was the leader.
But I don't think I was a good leader.
Many of my effort turned fruitless.
I didn't know what to do when many quit brass band right after I became the leader.
I hope this class helps me analyze problems of my leadership :)
-What were the qualities that enabled you to succeed or persevere?
I love to work for others, and that is THE motivation of everything.
For example, I took 教育哲学概論(Intro. to Educational Philosophy) this term and it's gonna be REALLY hard, but I won't drop it because when I become a teacher, this hard experience WILL enable me to understand the children who can't understand anything in a class. (By not the content of this class, but the fact that I experienced a class I can't really understand)
I'm sure this character of mine, loving to work for others, helped me to do any work in the brass band to the end of my role.
But this also brought a problem... which is exactly the answer of the 2nd question.
-What was the nature of the teamwork that support that you were able to inspire? How did you work with others to achieve your goal?
Of course, I had many other small leaders like leader of management instrument, music score, each instrument, etc.
But I didn't really trust them, though most of them were my close friends, because it was far faster if I just do the works, not having the process to ask a specific person to do them, and also because I didn't feel bad to do a lot of work for others.
However, I'm sure that I should have trusted other leaders much more. that was far more ideal.
my work hid the teamwork and oneness of the brass band itself.
I cannot really answer the question, but I'm sure I need the team's support when I work as a leader.
well, the team needs to be trustworthy to be assumed to be able to achieve the work. and also, the leader should not ask for a really difficult thing to accomplish, for that might cause untrustworthiness. In that case, I think it's important to work TOGETHER and be interdependent :)
13 Wed.
it's 17 Sun. lol
I must write this blog right after the class... I'm such a "now or never" person :(
But I have a memo of what was interesting in the lecture :)
I loved your two sentences, especially the latter:
HANDSHAKE IS AN AGREEMENT
SMILE IS UNIVERSAL
it's an obvious thing in a way, but as I rethink about it, it's really great that SMILE IS UNIVERSAL.
As we grow as a human in any place on the earth, I can just smile to show that I'm happy, and when I see smile, I can always recognize he/she is happy.
I also liked your suggestion to hold a pen in my mouth.
I did that several times, and I also suggested that on facebook XD
this is just a memo...I wanna read them someday.
Daniel Goleman: "Social Intelligence": the science how we can be happy just by making a fake smile
"Harvard Business Review": mirror neurons(we unconsciously "smile back")
I haven't finished the reading assignment yet...I hate TETSUYA!!
(I did start lol)
I must write this blog right after the class... I'm such a "now or never" person :(
But I have a memo of what was interesting in the lecture :)
I loved your two sentences, especially the latter:
HANDSHAKE IS AN AGREEMENT
SMILE IS UNIVERSAL
it's an obvious thing in a way, but as I rethink about it, it's really great that SMILE IS UNIVERSAL.
As we grow as a human in any place on the earth, I can just smile to show that I'm happy, and when I see smile, I can always recognize he/she is happy.
I also liked your suggestion to hold a pen in my mouth.
I did that several times, and I also suggested that on facebook XD
this is just a memo...I wanna read them someday.
Daniel Goleman: "Social Intelligence": the science how we can be happy just by making a fake smile
"Harvard Business Review": mirror neurons(we unconsciously "smile back")
I haven't finished the reading assignment yet...I hate TETSUYA!!
(I did start lol)
Sunday, April 10, 2011
11 Mon.
the very first class of sophomore!
I loved the atmosphere of the class and Ken's speaking XD
but I'm gonna spend soooo long to be able to call everybody's name :(
the class seems to be hard, which I knew before, but I want this class to be so cuz I really need to be pushed. I know I'm not a hardworking person.<-bad aspect to have a leadership lol
I was really happy to learn such a PRACTICAL skill of leadership (and many many other areas), handshake.
brief, firm, with name :)
I loved the atmosphere of the class and Ken's speaking XD
but I'm gonna spend soooo long to be able to call everybody's name :(
the class seems to be hard, which I knew before, but I want this class to be so cuz I really need to be pushed. I know I'm not a hardworking person.<-bad aspect to have a leadership lol
I was really happy to learn such a PRACTICAL skill of leadership (and many many other areas), handshake.
brief, firm, with name :)
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